Tacitus tells us that an amber ring was thought to be of no value among the Romans till the emperor took to wearing one, and then immediately an amber ring was held in high esteem. Bereavements might be looked on as very sad things, but when re recollect that Jesus wept over his friend Lazarus, they are choice jewels and special favors from God. Christ wore this ring. Then I must not blush to wear it.
Anger must be dealt with. It cannot be ignored. Anger is a very strong emotion and, if left to itself, will trap us in destructive attitudes and viewpoints. The Christian has a means of dealing with anger, for the opposite of anger is love, and the resources of love available to the person redeemed in Christ is inexhaustible. The salve for anger is forgiveness, and since the believer has been forgiven in Christ, he or she can likewise forgive.Grieving, 38
One does not seek to escape grief, but to embrace it, work through it, allow it to heal the hurt, so that we can move on with our lives in full light and recognition of what has happened and how God has changed our lives as a result.Grieving, 23
Hope is the key to the grieving process. It is what makes the difference between being in the downward spiral, headed to despair, and the upward spiral, leading to acceptance of one's loss and the ability to once again love and rejoice and feel with all of one's heart...This was Paul's point in writing to the Thessalonians, for he well knew the role of hope in the Christian life. It is the power that keeps one going, the fuel that runs the engine of the soul, the medicine that brings healing to a wounded heart. It gives strength to face an uncertain future, for it looks not to its own resources, but Christ.James White, Grieving: Your Path Back To Peace